Because we are the most comfortable and “real” with our immediate family, we save our harshest words for the people we think will be around forever. Not a great strategy for closeness or meaningful intimacy. And not a holistic approach to relating …
Absolutely. If we think of it, we start being harsh and “up-front” honest (more like totally insensitive and downright impolite) when we get too “comfortable” and “settled” with our partners, family, friends… No one usually does this at the start of a relationship, when they’re afraid of losing the person. But being ‘family’ (completely erroneously) presupposes that the other person won’t go anywhere from you — be they a partner, husband, or child. What a surprise it is when they don’t take that well!
I’m convinced that being truthful to yourself and your family, and being downright blunt about things isn’t the same. The latter is just a matter of uncontrolled emotions, annoyance, and temper control.
Thanks for this beautiful article that everyone should read!!!